Turning Awkwardness into Connection: Why You Should Embrace Embarrassing Moments in Bed
Sex and intimacy aren't always planned and executed to perfection. Those movie scenes where the perfect moment leads to this seemingly choreographed rhythm, all while a perfectly matched soundtrack plays in the background are not true reality.
Intimacy in the real world involves vulnerability, a good sense of humor, trust, and an ability to navigate awkward scenarios when they arise. Being able to embrace unexpected moments in the bedroom is foundational for a healthy connection. Let’s explore this a little further.
It’s Human Nature
Imperfections are inherently human nature. Embarrassing moments come for us all. We have little control over when and where they happen. They’re simply part of life. You can choose to cringe and make it more awkward, or you can embrace this moment.
Little mishaps like unexpected bodily sounds are completely normal. Physical challenges, while undesired during any type of intimate moment, are universal experiences. So if and when something like this happens again, remind yourself that you’re human. Letting go of the stigma that awkwardness is bad will bring you some freedom and can actually improve your connection.
They Can Build Trust
When you embrace embarrassing moments, it begins to build a new level of trust with your partner. No matter how confident you are in your existence and being with your partner, certain awkward moments can leave you in a vulnerable place. For this to work effectively, you need to treat these moments with kindness, provide reassurance, and kindness.
Not making a big deal out of them, and actually embracing them, can create a culture of safety within your relationship. Both of you feel safe and judgment free in your imperfections. You’re able to be authentically you. There’s something really special when you find someone you don’t have to put on a show for.
They Can Strengthen Your Connection
When you reach a point of being secure in your vulnerability and brushing off any awkward moments, you will start to build a deeper connection with your partner. This ability to laugh and find humor in vulnerable moments allows you to form more intimate bonds.
It teaches you how to navigate challenges with respect and builds on emotional intelligence. Plus, laughter in these shared moments can give you new memories and create inside jokes.
It Can Provide Some Sense of Relief
Being able to fully embrace the uncomfortable and awkward moments will help alleviate any issues with performance anxiety, or just anxiety in general. When you’re less anxious, you’ll be able to be more present with your partner and enjoy these intimate moments.
Getting into the mindset that unexpected moments are going to happen helps you relax and have more pleasurable moments with your partner. You let go of those nagging internal thoughts that lead you to believe you need to be perfect.
You’ll Have Funny Stories
Even when you start embracing those cringey moments, it still may take a little bit of time to find the full humor in them. But once you do, you’ll have some pretty entertaining stories to look back on and laugh about.
Being able to have this sense of humor is a good sign of self-confidence and is a quality many people look for in a partner. By being a good sport and owning the moment, you can improve your connection in yet another way.
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If you have one takeaway here, it’s that awkward moments are inevitable, but it’s more about how you respond that matters. You and your partner are less likely to remember the specific awkwardness, but more likely to recall the experience around it.
If you’re having intimacy or connection issues with your partner in the bedroom, couples therapy can help. We can work on strategies to move past these issues and deepen your connection. Contact us to learn more and schedule an appointment.